How To Be Confident

Gracelyn Shrewsbury, Reporter

Do you ever try to satisfy other people, fearing they will disapprove of who you truly are? Do you ever feel like you need to change your physical appearance or your personality to squeeze into an image you’re not?


This could be a sign that you struggle with being confident and loving yourself. But do not fear, I got your back. 


Before we get into any pointers, let me reassure you that everyone has their insecurities even if they’re not showing them. So remember, who you’re comparing yourself to most of the time is struggling with their self-worth. 


First off, it can be hard trying to get the negative thoughts that are causing you to be self-conscious out of your head. So, instead, speak positively to yourself when you find yourself starting to compare. 


For example, if you find yourself calling your appearance ugly. Instead, say, “I am beautiful, and I am confident.” These words of encouragement over time will give you the confidence you need to break the toxic patterns of self-doubt.


According to Lead Sports CO, “Researchers have found that giving yourself compliments is just as beneficial as receiving them.” 


Second, break off your toxic relationships. Break off the friend that makes you feel like you don’t have an opinion. Cut off the significant other that you feel you have to change everything about you for. 


Now, you may be asking “How would you cut them off if you love them?” Well, it can be hard to face it once you have fallen for someone or have gotten close to them. But, if they are showing toxic traits as said, then it’s time to face reality first. 


When letting someone go: cut off contact, build a support system, and be firm about your decision. Take time to acknowledge that it’s best for you and know that you deserve better. 


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Let go of people like this from your life, and there will be a major impact on how you see yourself. It may be uncomfortable or awkward but, there are people out there that will love and respect you for who you are. 


According to Future Learn, “those who are negative and try to bring you down can often drain your confidence.”


Now, this task is `easier. Simply, write a list of things you like about yourself on a piece of paper and stick it somewhere you will see often. Such as a bathroom mirror, bedroom mirror, or next to your bed. 

Read these every day or a list of affirmations to change your mindset. For example:


“I love myself.”


“I am beautiful.”


“I am proud of who I am.”


Next, take care of your body. This can take form in eating, sleeping, and exercising. 


When you make these things a priority, it makes an impact on you how you see yourself. 


According to Verywellmind, “When you practice self-care, you know you’re doing something positive for your mind, body, and spirit–and you’ll naturally feel more confident as a result.”


Practice this by eating nourishing foods, sleeping 7-9 hours, and moving your body for at least 30 minutes per day. 


When it comes to eating nutritious food. Stay away from overeating or eating things that are greasy, sugary, or high in fat. Now, it’s okay to eat these as a treat but prevent yourself from eating them regularly. 


When it comes to sleeping, the average human should have 7-9 hours of sleep a night. But, the average teen should have 9-10 hours of sleep per night because our brains and bodies are still growing. 


So, plan realistic bed times knowing the alarm will go off at 6 a.m. Turn your phone off and allow your mind to relax before hitting the pillow. 


Exercising is key to boosting energy and maintaining a positive outlook. When getting the exercise it releases endorphins, which is a chemical in the brain that makes you happier and more confident. 


If you don’t play a sport or have a gym class, make an effort to walk for 30 minutes while playing some music or walking your dog.